&**@&@!!

Why is it, that there are some people, that when they open their mouths, you've already positioned in your mind to not believe a single word they say. I mean, it's not as if they are complete liars, but something about them is a facade or not completely trustworthy. Therefore, when I'm approached by such people, many times, my internal stance is that of irritation.

But maybe they are pushing buttons in me that need to be pushed. Maybe they have truly garnered some sort of truth that I am not humble enough to receive. Or maybe they are life liars, truly incapable of being heart trustworthy and in dire need of an intervention.

I'm not so enamored with their stance, but more so my reaction. I feel the need to punch them in the face.

I know, I know. But it's true. It's one thing to lie to me, but it's another to lie to yourself and to try to make me believe your lie with you. Please don't make me do it.

Maybe you didn't know -- and I think I just realized while writing this, that we carry an intangible presence of trust with us. We can decrease the power and reality of our trust (among ourselves and people) with lies and facades or we can increase it with the power of truth and of love.

So truth and trust go hand in hand. Like two people dancing.

With that said, I guess it's time for us all to look at who we're dancing with.

I Git It From My Mama...

I just gave someone relationship advice a few days ago. And as I think of that moment, I sort of chuckle to myself. I'm not even IN a relationship right now, but somehow I feel qualified to speak romance wisdom. In fact, I've only really been in one relationship my entire life. And yet, I believe in the words that I told this young lady. I believe those words whole heartedly. And then I thought to myself...Why?

One reason being, I've already seen some of the fruit of my past romance wisdom and predictions. And yes, I've had a decent track record. But even more than that, I have watched someone very close to me walk out those weighty "theories" and glisten with patience, joy, laughter, and friendship in the midst of real relationship. So much so, that I'll, with strong conviction, risk telling someone love advice.

Sometimes we feel as if our wisdom and knowledge in regards to romance and love is being wasted because it's not being exercised on us or is not being fully experienced in our own lives as of yet. But that's simply not true. It is not wasted at all.

With the giving away of true wisdom tempered with true humility, much like love, you will reap the rewards of it....in due time and unexpected ways.